But what does this actually mean in regards to a long and happy marriage? Love is so many things, it is obviously that flush of romantic desire, the need to be with your chosen one all the time, to study the features that blow you away and see that desire reflected back to you, in their eyes. But it is also so much more… It is thinking about what the other wants and putting their needs on an equal level of importance as your own. Really feeling that their happiness is a priority in your daily life and showing it in your actions.
Having your partner’s back is important, making them feel that you will support them, not judge them, even when you don’t agree with them. This is being a friend and they should be your best friend. Would you say to your best friend something that you may say to your husband or wife in a moment of anger, probably not. So if you marry your best friend, you should always keep that in mind and think before you speak.
Another thing that best friends do is have a ball together, it’s not all about work and achieving your goals, although that in itself is also important. We must have time to laugh together, be silly together, dance, sing, or just be quiet together. The balance is found in making your time together count and your time apart count for you as individuals. Don’t begrudge that time apart, because when your partner is fulfilling their interests, working, or spending time with other friends, this is what keeps them the person that you actually fell in love with.
Enjoy your differences, wouldn’t it be boring if we were all the same, if we had the same feelings on all matters and agreed all the time, yes easy, but boring. Listen to your partner’s point of view, have empathy, you may even find that occasionally they make more sense than you! Affection is very important, have you ever seen an older couple, holding hands as they walk along the beach, if you have, I bet you said AWHHH. If complete strangers can give you that soft gooey feeling, then how will you make your partner feel, if you demonstrate your affection towards them every day. The answer to that is, wonderful, wanted, important.
Love is a very broad term, it encompasses many things, physical attraction, equality, consideration, friendship, loyalty, playfulness, support, understanding, affection, comradeship, it is all these things and more. So, yes, if love is all these things, love really is all you need, for the basis on which to build your long and happy marriage.
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